Bye 2018 and Good Riddance
2018 was strange AF. I walked into it with high hopes and ambitions. I'm walking out just happy I made it. There wasn't anything particularly horrible about it, and despite that there were some amazing high notes, I still just feel relief that it's over now. Is it just me?…
For Black Girls That Have Considered Suicide When Respect Would Have Been Enough
For Black Girls That Have Considered Suicide When Respect Would Have Been Enough I did not watch the US Open a few weeks ago because well, I don’t watch TV. But when I heard of how the amazing Serena Williams was treated, I immediately and deeply felt her pain. I…
For Black Girls & Tattered Mothers Who’ve Considered Suicide When the Village Wasn’t Enuf
For Black Girls & Tattered Mothers Who've Considered Suicide When the Village Wasn't Enuf When the Guests Arrive.... Last week, a new acquaintance accepted an invitation to come over for an impromptu playdate after our usual gathering at the local public library. She and I had begun engaging while our…
You Owe Me: Serena Williams Humanizes Black Womanhood at US Open
[caption id="attachment_2520" align="aligncenter" width="598"] Serena Williams defends her integrity and legacy at US Open 2018.[/caption] I knew it was coming. #usatoday started the berating and dehumanizing of Serena Williams and I'm sure others will follow. But, we must SPEAK and tell our own stories. We must constantly remind the world that we…
Respectability Politics is the Death of the Black Church
I tell my kids to only correct an elder if they know they're wrong and it makes a difference. This is one such occasion. Rev. Jasper Williams stood in our sacred sanctuary yesterday, postured himself over our queen, and spewed…
An Ode to Ruby and Every Other Husband Trainer
https://soundcloud.com/user-104246940/an-ode-to-ruby-and-every-other-husband-trainer Press play to the recording above as you read along with the poem below the article. An Ode to Ruby and Every Other Husband Trainer If you watch the new romantic dramedy, "Love Is...," on the OWN Network, then you're familiar with the cinematic tale of the courtship of…
Back to Black Lists: Tallahassee Black-Owned Businesses
[caption id="attachment_2453" align="alignleft" width="565"] Tallahassee skyline taken from Wikimedia Commons[/caption] Black Girls, I know everyone praises Atlanta and D.C. for being Black Meccas, but there are some gems for us in the smaller pockets of America as well. And, I plan to highlight them in a series of monthly posts…
Tea Time Tuesday: A Dream Converted
[caption id="attachment_2416" align="alignleft" width="469"] Dreams change as life does. There's beauty in that too.[/caption] Happy Tea Time Tuesday Black Girls! Today, we're SPEAKing about mourning and releasing what we thought would be our realities, so that we can be grateful for what truly is. Poet, Langston Hughes, probed us with…
The Choice of Imprudence: Why Kanye Should Not Speak for Us
There's an African proverb that states, "It is better to be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt." I cannot SPEAK to Kanye West's state of mind. That is not my field of study or expertise, so I would never be so foolish as to…
Mammogram, Mom-mogram
It's Wellness Wednesday Black Girls! Last week, I took my daughter with me to my first mammogram appointment. According to her, it was a "mom-mogram." I hadn't planned on making it a lesson for her when I scheduled it over a month ago. (I actually forgot and didn't get…