The Day of Summer Days Part I
The Day of Summer Days Part I: My son asked me why they have to go to camp everyday. I told him it was so he could meet new friends and have fun. He told me he only plays with his old friend and he's not having much fun. Boys…
BGS Healing Retreat 2019
I did a thing. I committed to doing many things this year, but one of the most important and scariest of those things was to launch and host my first Black Girl Speaks Healing Retreat. All of us get whispers from the monster of insecurity. It lurks in the closets…
Up Is Not the Only Way: Just Get Out!
Black Girls, I have something to tell y'all. This week was a lot of things and now another Black Girl's post has me really reflecting on it. It is ending with a charge from my husband and motivation from my sister friend, Avery, this morning. My husband had the unmitigated gall…
Surviving R. Kelly and Every Other Predator We Know and Love Part I
The whole movement of Black Girl Speaks is based on the premise that when we SPEAK of our traumas and release ourselves from its bondage, HEALING begins. My thoughts about the documentary "Surviving R. Kelly" are so varied right now. I watched this from the lens of a woman, a…
Bye 2018 and Good Riddance
2018 was strange AF. I walked into it with high hopes and ambitions. I'm walking out just happy I made it. There wasn't anything particularly horrible about it, and despite that there were some amazing high notes, I still just feel relief that it's over now. Is it just me?…
For Black Girls That Have Considered Suicide When Respect Would Have Been Enough
For Black Girls That Have Considered Suicide When Respect Would Have Been Enough I did not watch the US Open a few weeks ago because well, I don’t watch TV. But when I heard of how the amazing Serena Williams was treated, I immediately and deeply felt her pain. I…
For Black Girls & Tattered Mothers Who’ve Considered Suicide When the Village Wasn’t Enuf
For Black Girls & Tattered Mothers Who've Considered Suicide When the Village Wasn't Enuf When the Guests Arrive.... Last week, a new acquaintance accepted an invitation to come over for an impromptu playdate after our usual gathering at the local public library. She and I had begun engaging while our…
You Owe Me: Serena Williams Humanizes Black Womanhood at US Open
[caption id="attachment_2520" align="aligncenter" width="598"] Serena Williams defends her integrity and legacy at US Open 2018.[/caption] I knew it was coming. #usatoday started the berating and dehumanizing of Serena Williams and I'm sure others will follow. But, we must SPEAK and tell our own stories. We must constantly remind the world that we…
Respectability Politics is the Death of the Black Church
I tell my kids to only correct an elder if they know they're wrong and it makes a difference. This is one such occasion. Rev. Jasper Williams stood in our sacred sanctuary yesterday, postured himself over our queen, and spewed…
An Ode to Ruby and Every Other Husband Trainer
https://soundcloud.com/user-104246940/an-ode-to-ruby-and-every-other-husband-trainer Press play to the recording above as you read along with the poem below the article. An Ode to Ruby and Every Other Husband Trainer If you watch the new romantic dramedy, "Love Is...," on the OWN Network, then you're familiar with the cinematic tale of the courtship of…